Fear of Commitment

“You always have two choices: your commitment versus your fear”

The word ‘commitment‘ itself might scare some people. The fear of commitment could either be in a relationship or even in simple life decisions. With the emerging infinite dating apps, one-night stands have become a common thing with the new generation. We are scared to commit to a relationship because we know it might end up miserably. This fear has stopped us from trying, leading to the concept of ‘no-strings attached’.

This idea of non-commitment might temporarily fix our issues but only make us soul-less in the long run. We don’t want to commit and then keep complaining about how miserable and lonely our life has become. Sometimes we woo away our potential partner by indirectly letting them know that this is just another passing affair. We are stuck in the same situation over and over again.  Einstein describes insanity as “doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.” so instead of complaining about being stuck, do something about it. So, what do we actually do?

Let’s take a very simple example here. How many times have you hit the gym ever since you took that membership? Most of us would be feeling guilty about it right now and a few might even be rationalizing the casual behavior by giving excuses. The excuses range from having no time to being lazy to having no motivation. But then we still complain about the stressful lives we lead and how inactive we have become. One simple solution here would be owing responsibility for ditching the gym and working out a way to become a regular. Some of the ways could be buying new gym gear or finding a gym partner. But do we actually do it? NO! Because we fail even before we try. We are scared of committing to even fitness here.

Here are some reasons why we may be scared of this big word – ‘commitment’.  How many of these are actually true? Time to take a note!

1. Unrealistic expectations

All thanks to Television shows and movies that we expect happy endings all the time. We forget that the movies are written by people who are paid to take the audience on an emotional roller coaster ride. We set the bar so high that we end up getting hurt and commitment phobic. That’s where we go wrong sometimes! But then it’s human tendency to expect from someone you love.  Here’s something that can work for you; Perfect relationships and perfect people don’t exist!

2. Letting the past predict the future

You fell in love with that cute girl in college and everything was just perfect. You loved her and she loved you. But things didn’t work out and your heart was broken into millions of pieces. You had to drown your sorrows in alcohol and listen to sad songs to recover. You then decided to never fall in love again. This has happened with almost each one of us. Experiences work like shock therapy; you get burned enough times and you naturally become conditioned to stop doing it.

Here’s something you can do to let go of this fear of the past daunting on your future: Don’t generalize people and situations based on your past experiences. It’s tough but works wonders sometimes!

Here’s a short but not such a sweet love story.

Once upon a time there was a guy named Bhushan. He had just completed MBA from UK and returned to India to pursue his career in advertising. He got a job at a very good advertising agency. He had good bosses, lovely parties to attend, success at an early stage and great friends. Everything was going fine and then boom…he fell in love with this girl from his office. They were very much in love. Their relationship took a serious turn when their families got involved and their kundlis were matched. It was all hunky dory for them. But then what do they say about time? It changes in the fraction of a second. She decided to pursue her MBA from the same college as Bhushan did and then come back to get married. Bhushan was hesitant first but then supported and encouraged her to go live her dream. She went to UK and their long – distance relationship continued well for around 4 months. Suddenly tragedy decided to make Bhushan’s life more interesting. He finds out from a couple of common friends that she had found another guy and that she no longer wanted to be with him. Bhushan could not believe it initially but reality slowly seeped in with time. He was devastated and never wanted to talk about love, commitment and marriage again.

Three years have passed and he still doesn’t believe in commitment.

We have no perfect solution for this but one should just give another chance when it’s worth it.

3. There’s time

Modern men and women don’t want to think of marriage and commitment because it’s too early for them. They want to focus on their career and make the most of it. Marriage can wait! We try to set time for commitment which never works. Therefore, don’t wait for the perfect time or the perfect person (We know you have made a list of the qualities) and just go for it when you feel is the right time. Because to be honest, there will never be more time.

4. I love my freedom

This may not be the sole reason for being commitment phobic but is always there in our sub conscious mind. Nobody likes to be questioned about their whereabouts and when it comes to constant nagging and regular fights with the partner, we are better off on our own. There is only simple solution. We should learn to compromise and that’s where all relationships get stronger.

The fear of commitment ultimately boils down to the same cycle. We fall for someone, get hurt and then fear to get closer with someone else.  Moral of the story is, you have to get through it once again to let go of the fear. So, don’t be a pessimist and be open to situations that life throws in.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

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FEAR OF BEING ALONE

We all have been through the lonely phase of our lives. While some come out strong, a few get trapped in this loneliness. A surprising number of people fear being alone. Maybe just about all of us do to some extent.  Which is natural, right?  We’ve all felt it, deep within us, though we try desperately to avoid this fear. But what happens when being alone turns into a fear?

This fear of being alone is an irrational behavior. Alone doesn’t mean “lonely.” Yet, the false premise states that clinging to ‘another’ for safety will somehow guarantee our safety.  Monophobia, or the fear of being alone, is a common term for several discrete fears. Some people are afraid of being apart from a particular person. Some fear living alone or being in public alone.

This fear being a latent one can’t be traced by any specific medical examination. It is difficult to track the percentage of people suffering from this phobia. You might be scared to be alone in the dark but such mild fears don’t make you monobhopic. However, research conducted in US shows that 1 in every 3 citizens suffer from this phobia. Have you started to feel that you may be a victim of this phobia?

Here is the story of a teenager who is is monophobic and slowly recovering from the fear. If you are monobhobic, you might just relate to this.

This is the story of a girl Sarah. She was pursuing her graduation and was usually a happy person.  She went to college everyday with a smile and tried to enjoy life to the fullest. But, sometimes, it was hard for her. She had a phobia of being left alone. It’s called monophobia. Monophobia is an acute fear of being alone and having to cope without a specific person.

About 7 months ago, she fell wildly in love with a boy.  You may think that she’s really too young to be in love, but with monophobia it’s easy to get closely attached to people. And, soon came the day, when he was ready to move on. She began to have panic and anxiety attacks, crying his name in the middle of the night. She would lock herself in her closet, not letting anyone in.

Recently, she started going for therapy. With monophobia, even therapists can’t bully or talk someone out of their phobia. Monophobics don’t talk about it, but they work on the fear. She’s doing much better now and feels good to be open about this.

Reachout has helped her, and so has therapy. She still has loads of it to go because she still doesn’t feel stable alone. But she will get through. A little bit at a time.

Do you know of anyone who has expressed their fear of being alone? Did you take it seriously or ignored it and asked them to pull up their socks and move on? Think about it! They might be a victim of this fear and just need the right help.

There are some typical symptoms of this fear. Here are some of them:

1. Irrational fear of being alone
2. Feeling of panic
3. Feeling of terror
4. Feeling of dread
5. Rapid heartbeat
6. Shortness of breath
7. Nausea
8. Dry mouth
9. Trembling
10. Anxiety

Check for these symptoms and if you know anyone going through the same, immediately seek medical help.

How to overcome this fear?

You may not be an extreme case but it’s always good to know about overcoming this fear and stay happy.

One study found that when older people are socially isolated, there is an increased risk of an earlier death, by as much as 26%. If you are worried about your fears of being alone, these ways will help you find your comfort zone.

1.      Enjoy your alone time

When you are alone, it is important to enjoy it to the full. Pursue your interests and hobbies. Take up new ones. Learn new skills. Lie on the couch. Eat pizza. Leave the kitchen in a mess. The list can go on and on, but finding the right balance is crucial. There will be times when being on your own is perfect, but then there will be a creeping feeling that you should not be so isolated. Once you start feeling loneliness, then it is time to take action.

2.      Don’t do social networking

In desperate needs to connect with someone, you might end up on Facebook, Twitter, Tinder etc. It is true that social networking can provide an initial contact, but the chances of that becoming a real life personal contact is pretty thin. Don’t stalk your ex and end up feeling miserable about being alone. Enjoy the time you have. Also remember when you really need company, your Facebook and Twitter friends won’t be there for you.

3.      Don’t be get into a relationship

It is a bitter fact that loneliness often turns into desperation which often gets us into wrong relationships. There might be peer pressure, pressure from the family to find a suitable partner and get married. But don’t rush into things. It will happen when it’s supposed to be. The main problem is that you need to pause, reflect and get advice. Recognize that your fear of being alone is taking over. A rash decision now could lead to endless unhappiness. So act upon your fear slowly and steadily.

 Count your blessings

Study after study shows that if people show gratitude they will reap a bountiful harvest. These include a stronger immune system, better health, more positive energy and most important of all, feeling less lonely and isolated.

Surround yourself with your loved ones, travel and don’t be scared to be alone.

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Fear of God

“Do GOD bless me?” Zeusophobia say..

Let me tell you an extra-ordinarily common story of Joel. Joel, a highly enthusiastic guy, joined as a business development part of the company. A day came when that company fell down and Joel threw out of the office. It was the first ever experience of failure, depression and FEAR in Joel’s life. Somebody from his friends told him that this is nothing but a bad time, GOD is taking your exam and you need to pass from all this. The story you read is one of those hundred thousand examples of fears that lead people living on earth to the fear of God. People like Joel live their lives on a high note but whenever life turns low, they think that it is god’s hunter. Writer Mark Battersonexplained, “The only God-ordained fear is the fear of God, and if we fear Him, we don’t have to fear anyone or anything else.” But I question WHY? Why can’t we just follow or believe in GOD? ‘Fear’ is a hell negative word to connect with god. Fear is brain’s reaction to something dangerous, either physically or emotionally. Is GOD dangerous?

Stats and Facts: How we get trapped?

Introducing the Fear from GOD, which is also called as ZEUSOPHOBIA. You need to go through various stages of lives, ups, downs, higher ups and lower downs and sometimes on a medium. Like a pop song, where note goes high and low according to the lyrics. We think God is the Music director of our life and he has written these high and low notes. This may be true at some level but at least not the reason to get scared from god in the low situations.

God is the word we use to describe the Supreme Being (energy) which is known in 6 billion (or the population of humanity whatever it is) different ways because the way we experience “God’ or define “God” is how we each are.

The figure tells the story of a common man and when he got more scared of GOD. There is a saying that when life gives you lemons, make a lemonade. What we do, when life give us lemons we get scared and start praying god to turn that lemons into apples. Whenever man gets a sharp turn in his life, he turns his head to god or may be someone else who can give him satisfaction that GOD will not punish you if you perform some tantrums.

The second person’s role!

Your symptoms of getting into this fear, started way back in your childhood only. You won’t believe, there is always someone’s hand in letting you join hands before GOD or in front of somebody else. You are not the one who experienced the energies of GOD. They may be your parent, your relative, your friend or someone you follow. In your early age may be, your father have taught you how to pray and you never asked him why to pray. Then and there, you were exposed to an energy or a picture or an idol that is supposed to be holding earth in hands. Same as this, somebody is there who put his finger in problem of your life and connect it to the God. Going back to Joel’s story, his friend played this part who gave birth to fear in his mind for God.

We all have created a misconception of GOD in our mind. It may be derived from the miracles you experienced by you and if you believe on those miracles. But most of the time, you trust on somebody else’s experience of miracles. There are still the strong believers or saints who deliver the message of god. People follow them to get rid of fears of life. I would also like to quote about two Indian films ‘OMG! OH MY GOD’ (2011) and ‘PK’ (2014). ‘OMG’ dealt by a non-believer of GOD who files a case against God and disciples of God. The protagonist explains how people of this country are involved into the business of fear of GOD.The film ‘PK’ is seen through the eyes of an alien who is in search of God. The alien questions the blind faith of the Earth’s residents in God.These tints of entertainment delivered a message that there is someone who actually astray your perception of GOD. This leads to a big FEAR.

Remedy?? See what people do in this FEAR!

In any kind of fear, your brain secrets ACTH hormones because of which your heart starts pumping on a faster rate or sometimes you get panic. To overcome this fearsome mood of mind, people try to avoid the situations where they are going to face this fear. But, GOD, as people say, is everywhere and watching us. So, How can we avoid GOD? No way… So, people starts elaborating this fear into various other fears. Like Fear of death (the unacceptable fact of life) or Fear of failures in life or Fear of some planet’s bad attitude towards you. There are various methods in which that second person keeps you posting about the stones and many other tantrums to come out of this fear. Before you never knew about this, you was a carefree person but when you come in contact to this fear and its attachments, you feel scared. So actually the remedies to this fear spread into various other fears.

There is absolutely nothing in god to incite fear in us. Nothing. Thus, fear is never of god. This truth stands at the foundation of the gospel of Jesus Christ: “For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. But god sent his son into the world, not to condemn the world, but that the world through him might be saved.” (John 3:16-17) this passage proves that god’s motives towards us are always redemptive. God is not out to punish us. He is out to save us. You just need to filter the preaching you are getting from the second person that if those are supportive to humanity or not. At least, stop being that second person in other’s life so that he can understand the things from his own experiences only. Don’t knock the door of GOD every time you face a fear as you are indirectly going deep into another bigger form of fear. And don’t even blindly follow what is written above, keep these things in your mind and experience what you feel in your fear of GOD.

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Fear of Society

Human emotions are many, some blend to create a beautiful feeling while some stems out of negativity. Fear is one of such human emotion which makes a person vulnerable, depressed and anxious. Fear are of many kinds, it is generally dependant on its genesis. One of such kinds of fear is social fear called Anthropophobia.

Anthropophobia is fear of society, the people and their company. When you are walking down the lane and a stranger is advancing towards you, you become conscious and tensed, well there are chances you are suffering from Anthropophobia.

Social awkwardness, shyness and timid behaviour is some of the signs in this phobia. While this disease is potentially is harmful and can certainly draw you away from the crowd, people and social gathering. One of the most important aspect in this fear is its origination. It often rises from the ashes of some traumatic past experience which has mentally perturbed the mind of the person. Anthropophobia is therefore one of high rise psychological problem which must be treated and cured.

Statistics and Facts – Some things we must know about Anthropophobia

Anthropophobia is always associated to some cause which has left a traumatic experience on the patient. This experience always hinders the person from communicating with someone else. Some facts about Anthropophobia are:

• Anthropophobia is misconstrued to be social phobia while it is just one of the social phobia, just a kind.
• Unlike other social phobia, Anthropophobia is more serious as a company of a single person also becomes a dreadful situation for the patient.
• The treatment of this phobia takes a long time over many therapies and counselling sessions.
• Each patient suffering Anthropophobia undergoes treatment which is specific to the cause of the phobia.
• Every patient in this fearful condition resorts to ways in which they completely give up on social crowd and if the condition worsen they often don’t interact with even a single person.
• This type of phobia is seen rising lately, though the reported cases of Anthropophobia is comparatively less than other phobia but it is rapidly rising in developed countries.
• The most cases of Anthropophobia is reported in China and Japan.

Symptoms – What tells us that we are Anthropophobic?

Every time whenever the thought of being with anyone, talking to anyone or the sight of being in the crowd haunts you, that means there is this latent phobia of people inside you.

Well in general some of the common symptoms are:

• shortness of breath
• Extreme panic attacks
• Anxious feeling
• Rapid heart pulsing in the crowd or in any social situation
• One often resorts to ways in which they try to run away from the crowded place or avoid the social scenes.

These symptoms are common indicators of fear or phobia. While the psychological reasons may differ but that remains the only measure which tells us that it is Anthropophobia and helps the doctor distinguish.

These symptoms are often accompanied by excessive sweating, dry mouth, short breaths, increased pulse, recurring negative thoughts, troubled sleep, weakness, stomach pains and headaches.

To avoid the situation to worsen a proper medical treatment is necessary and hence a counsellor and its consultation can be a great help.  However small is the symptoms, whenever one is scared of facing another person or there is a major problem in communicating with people, making eye contact or being social, then one must take a help of counsellor which will help them overcome this fear.

Remedies – How we can get rid of this fear?

Simple counselling will not help much when it comes to Anthropophobia. It is a fear which originated from a thought or experience, therefore it has to be treated from its root so that reoccurrence is less likely to happen.

To start with cure, the patient must visit a psychiatrist. A good detail talk is important. However the patient might refrain from interacting with the doctor because of his fear and therefore the initial stages of treatment may be little difficult.

The good part is Anthropophobia is curable and even the worst cases have been cured with proper therapies and treatment.

If this phobia is diagnosed at early stages then only a few therapy sessions with the doctor will help the patient get better. In these sessions the doctor helps the patient in inculcate more positive thoughts, make them control their emotions and replace the fearful/negative thoughts with good ones. For instance if someone is too conscious about how people will judge his looks at the party, then that person is often made to replace the negative thoughts like people will call him ugly or make fun of him with some positive ones like people will tell him Oh! You look great today, you are such a hunk etc.

The treatment and therapy differs for each patient and there is no standardised method to cure this type of fear. However one of the most used treatment is systematic desensitization, this is a gradual treatment process specially related to behavioural techniques.

This is used only when the cases are of extreme fear. This is one the best approach to treat major phobias. In this technique the patient undergoes some skills to relax themselves in any situation whenever they experience fear. Well to implant this technique strongly into them, they are first taught and then made to practice them by slowly making them vulnerable to their fear. In this case the patient might learn some socialising skills and how to overcome the fear of being in the crowd, later on they are slowly introduced to people, made to interact with them and this treatment helps is overcoming the fear and coming out of it.

Anthropophobia is not an easy to diagnose phobia, since it is often misunderstood to be social anxiety or shyness. One must take the symptoms seriously and try to consult a counsellor so that they can at least overcome their fear of people. This phobia is one of the worst kind since it completely makes the patient deprive of their social needs which affects the life of the person personally and professionally. Also isolation can further make the person face other psychological issues, therefore the treatment and cure of Anthropophobia is of utmost important for the welfare of the patient and their loved ones.

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Fear

Throughout the existence of human race, fear is an emotion that has been interspersed with other more common emotions like happiness and sadness in the minds of a human. Fear, by definition is a very unpleasant or disturbing feeling caused by the presence or imminence of danger. There’s no one who has been spared. Everyone has fear of something or the other. The only disparity is that in some, the fear is more pronounced while in others, it is less. Fear can be described in two different ways. In uncountable form it is caused by actual or perceived danger. In the countable form it is induced by something or someone.

The fears are varied and incalculable. There’s the fear in uncountable form that includes fear of heights, fear of darkness, fear of public speaking, fear of death, fear of ghosts, fear of flying, fear of water, fear of god, fear of open spaces and confined spaces and many others. Fear in countable form is the fear of ants, fear of spiders and fear of other animals. It also covers the fear of terrorist attacks, fear of a war or criminal, fear of being alone, fear exams and a lot more.

On 8th July, 2014 a study conducted by the National Institute of Mental Health, found staggering data.

Percent of things feared that will never take place : 60%

• Percent of things feared that happened in the past and can’t be changed :  30%
• Percent of things feared that are considered to be insignificant issues: 90%
• Percent of things feared in relation to health that will not happen: 88%
• Number of Americans who have a diagnosed phobia : 6.3 Million

They even researched on the top fears faced by the U.S. population. Here’s what they came up with:

• Fear of public speaking – Glossophobia : 74%
• Fear of death – Necrophobia : 68%
• Fear of spiders – Arachnophobia : 30.5%
• Fear of darkness – Achluophobia, Scotophobia or Myctophobia : 11%
• Fear of heights – Acrophobia : 10%
• Fear of people or social situations – Sociophobia : 7.9%
• Fear of flying – Aerophobia : 6.5%
• Fear of confined spaces – Claustrophobia : 2.5%
• Fear of open spaces  – Agoraphobia : 2.2%
• Fear of thunder and lightning – Brontophobia : 2%

The Hollywood stars who are capable to jump off from the top of a building, race cars, swim on a high tide in a sea actually have real fears that are Johnny Depp, Daniel Radcliffe and Sean “Diddy” Combs are frightened of clowns. “Something about the painted face, the fake smile,” Depp said in 1999 when he was promoting the film “Sleepy Hollow.” “There always seemed to be a darkness lurking just under the surface, a potential for real evil.” Uma Thurman is claustrophobic and fears confined spaces. “There was no acting required. Real screams available,” she told reporters about the scene in “Kill Bill: Vol. 2″ where she is buried alive in a coffin. “It was horrific. Nobody wants to live that experience.” Alia Bhatt who has won the hearts of critics and fans alike has a fear of darkness and cannot sleep without a dim light in her room. Actor ArjunKapoor has a weird fear of ceiling fans. That is precisely the reason why he doesn’t have a single ceiling fan in his house. Everyone is encompassed in fear. No one’s free.

Fear is always accompanied by a host of symptoms physical, behavioral and emotional which can get quite disturbing. Almost everyone would have faced these symptoms before a job interview, or before the first day in a college, or before visiting a doctor. There’s tightness in chest and throat, breathlessness, dry mouth, weakness in muscles, hollow stomach and lack of energy. These physical symptoms can be dealt with easily. The behavioral symptoms include sleep disturbances, appetite disturbances, social withdrawal, dreams of deceased, searching/calling out, crying and clinging to reminders. It is the emotional symptoms that really pegs a person back and is the greatest hassle. Anxiety, guilt, helplessness, yearning, self-reproach and numbness surround a person and they make sure that the person is kept down. It can lead to phobias if the fear is not addressed or confronted.

The purpose of fear is to protect us from dangerous situations. If there’s a lion in front of you, the most natural thing that would come to your mind is to run away to save your life. There are a few proven ways to fight fear. Some of the prominent methods are:

• Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway. Take positive action against the fear. Face it and overcome it through courage and a positive outlook. If the fear of failure stopping you from taking up that course, go ahead and enroll yourself in that course.
• Educate Yourself:Learn more and more about the object you’re afraid of. You’re afraid of giving up your job and pursuing your dream to be a writer. Learn how you can be a better writer. Read and write more. Chuck your job. Start with writing a blog and then write your novel that could turn out to be a bestseller.
• Affirmations: Use self-affirmations to lend a positive spin to whatever you’re afraid of. Write these self-affirmations on sticky notes and paste them where you can see them more number of times.
• Visualization: Positive visualization is an amazing and extremely powerful technique of fighting your fears. Project yourself overcoming your fears. If you’re afraid of public speaking, imagine yourself delivering a flawless and powerful speech to the audience. Keep the image in your mind firmly.
• What’s the worst case scenario? Ask this question repeatedly to yourself. What’s the worst that can happen, anyway? If you ask this question, you’ll realize how silly the fear is. If you’re afraid of asking your crush out, what’s the worst that could happen? Her saying ‘No?’ That isn’t that bad, right?

Henry Ford said, “One of the greatest discoveries a man makes, one of his great surprises, is to find he can do what he was afraid he couldn’t do.” It’s okay to be fearful. Everyone is. However, if it starts acting as a hindrance and stops you from doing what you want, then it is a problem. Stop falling into its trap. Take a stand and fight them and always do what you are afraid to do.

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Fear of Interview

DON’T LET THE NERVES TAKE OVER

“Sometimes nerves take over and you don’t show who you are.”

Those are the words of an auditioning actor in “Every Little Step,” a 2008 documentary that follows the process of casting the 2006 Broadway revival of “A Chorus Line.” These words could have been said by anyone who has been nervous before a job interview or looked back on his job interview performance filled with regret. When you have the pressure to perform to the best of your ability, anxiety can creep in, which can threaten to ruin your performance.

There are no exact statistics as to what percentage of people suffers from the fear of job interview. However, in more than one ways this fear is impinged by the fear of public speaking. In a recent survey in the U.S. it was revealed that more than 74% of the U.S. population suffers from the fear of public speaking. Hence, it can be said that a large chunk of people are affected and shaken up before a job interview.

Forgetting lines tops the fear actors experience in their careers. They have this fear because they have never run these lines in front of the camera or the audience before. Their preparation is terrible which gets noticed easily, if it is a live show. If a cricketer is playing his first test match, the pressure on him is tremendous. The pressure to do well, the expectations of his family and friends and then doubt creeps in asking the same question repeatedly, ‘Am I good enough?’ The same is the case with job seekers. Their nerves can be disturbing and prove to be a real deterrent when it comes to facing the interview. Questions like ‘Where do you see yourself in 10 years?’ or ‘Why would you like to work for this company above others?’The candidates feel like they are back in school at the end of an assembly unable to form their words.

Everyone gets the jitters before an interview. It is normal. The primary symptoms of an interview stress are: Shaking legs, wobbly knees, feeling nauseous, pounding heart, shortness of breath, racing heartbeat, flashbacks, trembling hands, constipation, general anxiety with no anchor, rushing, fearful imagery, nightmares, inability to eat, avoidance of people, inability to control thoughts, sudden heat in body, feeling cold for no reason, panic attack, distorted sense of elapsed time, shaking voice, self-consciousness, poor coordination, stumbling and bumbling, dizziness, cracking in voice, difficulty concentrating, sudden tiredness, emotional flatness frozen movements and a lot more. The physical symptoms are different from person to person. However, the negativity in thoughts and the fear of failure and the symptoms that arise out of them are almost the same in everyone.

Interviews are hard and they can change your life. The stakes rocket up when interviewing with more than person. They’re all looking at you with eagerness, waiting to pounce on you, while you’re struggling to come up with the right answer. The following are some of the ways that can help you overcome the interview fear.

• Practice, practice and practice some more: The fact that practice makes a man perfect can’t be stressed any further. Stand in front of the mirror and be the interviewer and the interviewee or call up a friend or friends and set up a mock interview. Have them ask you the toughest questions. Repeat this process so many times that you become assertive and confident enough to face any questions.
• Be confident: Your resume stood out from the other applicants. Only then did you get a call back from the company. Half the battle is already won. Remember this as you prepare for the interview and meet the interviewer. Think of someone you admire and their qualities. Remember how that person carries himself and exudes self-confidence and you’ll do the same.
• This too shall pass: Getting nervous is normal and it is an event that’ll eventually pass and could make you laugh when it is over. The company wouldn’t have called you if they didn’t think you were good enough. Always remember, that you’ll be an asset to this company and should they not hire you, it’s going to be their loss.
• All is well: You can fool your brain by letting it believe that everything is under control. All is well. When you act like everything is fine, your brain believes your actions. It calms the nerves. Be confident and the brain and body will respond. Look interviewer in the eye and face every question with ease.
• Take it easy: You’re almost done. Every terrifying moment that you spend in the interview room increases your chance of getting through. They won’t ask you so many questions if they didn’t think you’re the one. You are prepared and you’ll answer the remaining questions with the same awe that you’ve shown the entire time.
• Let your personality shine through: The interviewer only knows about you what has been written on the resume. Take your time to answer the question, ‘Tell me about yourself’ as this is the perfect time for you to let your personality shine through. Tell him how your experience will be of great value to the company. Ask him about his career and his experience. Ask him about the company. One night before the interview, research a little on the company. This will show that you have genuine interest in the company.
• Don’t be in a hurry: Take your time to answer every question. That way the words will come out clearer, there is a less chance of you fumbling when speaking and it also gives the impression that you are thoughtful and not struggling during the conversation.
• Sell your assets: Make the interviewer believe that the company is seeking you, the best qualified candidate for the job. The interviewer wants to know if you’re the person with the best solution. Your job is to convey that in fact, you’re that man. Highlight why you’re different and how you can prove to be a real asset to the organization.

Paulo Coelho said, “And one has to understand that braveness is not the absence of fear but rather the strength to keep on going forward despite the fear.” The truth is there will be interview stress but there are ways to keep it in check. The greater number of mind tools you have to beat the interview stress, the better you’ll perform. Beating interview stress is not about being perfect or being care free. It is about adjusting and managing the anxiety.

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Understanding Cleithrophobia: Symptoms, Causes and Cure

Are you one of them,who after entering a room,face the fear of being locked in it and worry that they won’t be able to come out at their free will? There isn’t a need to worry as you are not the only one to experience the persistent fear. Neither is it too late to get it cured. But it’s high time that you recognise your fear, its symptoms and causes.

Among the many phobias, the one that suits the above stated symptoms is Cleithrophobia. It is the fear of being locked in enclosed places.People with such phobias avoid using elevators, going to the toilet or a place that they feel may ‘entrap’ them.

Normally, when we hearabout people suffering from these symptoms,we joke about them and put them in a situational-fearful position. This can cause adverse effects and worsen both emotional and psychological behaviour of a person suffering from this phobia.

If you’re wondering how the fear took control over you

Then, you should go back in the past and find out if there was any occurrence of a larger event, specifically of a traumatic one that led to this fear.  The other possible reasons could be that it is genetic or a deficiency of some vital chemicals in the brain.

There are many such cases when people fear going alone to the toilet. One case was reported on www.boards.ie with the person’s name undisclosed.He mentioned that once, he was locked in a small place in a building and he couldn’t come out. He panicked and suffered serious injurieswhen making an attempt to come out of that place. He is still suffering from a serious trauma and has not forgotten the event yet.

He advises people with similar phobia to carry their cell phones along with them even when going to the toilet.

Another case picked from the same site is that of an anonymous person,who said that before entering the toilet or any room, he makes sure to check the lock. If the lock is dodgy, then he wouldn’t enterit.

How can one determine for the symptoms of Cleithrophobia or Cleisiophobia?

People often confuse Cleithrophobia with Claustrophobia, when the latter is the fear of small enclosed places.

There is another anonymous person who shares his experience onwww.experienceproject.com. This person knows the difference between the two and he is sure that he is suffering from Cleithrophobia. He supports his reasoning by stating that he is extremely comfortable in closed spaces but the fear builds up when he is stuck in the place or unable to come out of it. This freaks him out. He said that even if aT-shirt gets stuck in his head while wearing, he immediately starts panicking.

Most people suffering from this fear often behave crazy and cause trouble, mostly to themselves. In the state of phobia, they often breathe heavily as they run short of breath, start sweating, heart beat increases;feelings of nausea, nervousness and dread arise.

Consult a specialised therapist

If you feel you have a persistent phobia and it just does not stop from occurring often, then you will have to visit a therapist for the treatment. This will help the experts to diagnose the type of fear and then begin with a specialised treatment suitable to your needs.

Doctors often begin the treatment with drugs. However, avoid taking it, as the prescribed drugs can only cure your symptoms but not help you psychologically. And if you stop your medicines abruptly, it may also result in side effects, like the withdrawal symptoms.

Although the therapy can last for a week or a month, it is effective. It may also require for you to repeatedly get exposed to the fear which sounds scary, but it’s the best way to treat.

There are many treatments that you can help you:

Exposure therapy

In this therapy, you are repeatedly put into stressful situations which are specifically relative to your fear and later on, the fear factor is increased to the degree of requirement.

This treatment has worked successfully among many suffering from Cleithrophobia. But it is always necessary to find a professional specialist who could understand the root cause of your fear.

Behavioural therapy

This is a one-on-one session where the experts expose you to various relaxation techniques, thereby helping you to slowly get rid of the fear.

The process is slow and requires a person to see a few photographs of enclosed places or to imagine yourself in a fearful situation. This will allow the experts to work on your thoughts, as well as to help you realise that the symptoms occurring in such cases are just mere thoughts and they will subside.

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy

This therapy is all about exercising your brain to kick-away all the unwanted negative thoughts and behaviour that result from the fear.

According to the study conducted by the American Psychiatric Association, it states that if you follow the treatment plan honestly, then you are sure to notice the improvement in 10 to 20 weeks and a tremendously surprising effect after a year.

Self-Help

This is the best treatment that you can adopt to see the resultant drastic changes in yourself.  Observe your symptoms and expose yourself to get rid of the fear.

Fear is nothing but a cluster of negative thoughts that keeps playing in your mind and thus shows up in the form of behaviour.  The only way to get rid of these baggage of thoughts is to control what you to think about and the language you use in your head.

This is nothing but self-evaluation.

Following technique of self-evaluation can help you see improvements faster:

No one can understand their fear better than the person itself who has planted the whole trouble in his/her head. Demystify the cause of your fear and see yourself hanging out without any worries with your friends.

You will suddenly notice a positive change in your lifestyle. You will no longer walk with your head down and depressed. Instead you will be high on energy, breathing normally and talking about what pleases you around.

So jump up from being an afraid-lazy bag and list out the plan for a quick and faster approach to cure your fear.

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